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The Meanest Mother In The World

I had the meanest mother in the world …

As a teenager I was asked to give talk in church on Mother’s Day.  I remember rummaging through a book of poems and short stories (this was long before the internet and “google”) and coming across one that described my mother perfectly. With a few minor changes the story became ‘my story’.

“The Meanest Mother”

I have the meanest mother in the whole world.  While other kids ate candy for breakfast, I had to have cereal, eggs or toast. When others had soda and candy for lunch, I had to eat a sandwich.  As you can guess, dinner was also different than the other kids. But at least, I wasn’t alone in my sufferings.  My two sisters and two brothers had the same mean mother as I did.

My mother insisted upon knowing where we were at ALL times.   You’d think we were on a chain gang.  She had to know who our friends were and where we were going.  She insisted if we said we’d be gone an hour, that we be gone one hour or less–not one hour and one minute.

I am embarrassed to admit it, but she actually spanked us.  Not once, but each time we had a mind of our own and did as we pleased.   Can you imagine someone actually spanking a child just because he disobeyed?  Now you can begin to see how mean she really was.

We had to wear clean clothes and take a bath. The other kids could wear their  clothes for days.  We reached the height of insults because she often made our clothes herself, just to save money.  

The worst is yet to come.  We had to be in bed by nine each night and up early the next morning.  We couldn’t sleep ’til noon like our friends.  So while they slept-my-mother actually had the nerve to break the child-labor law.  She made us WORK!  We washed dishes, made our beds, learned to cook and all sorts of cruel things.  

I believe she laid awake at night thinking up mean things to do to us.

She always insisted upon us telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, even if it killed us-and sometimes it nearly did.

By the time we were teenagers, she was  much wiser, and our life became even more unbearable.  None of this tooting the horn of a car for us to come running.  She embarrassed us to no end by making our dates and friends come to the door to get us.  While my friends were dating at the mature age of 13 or 14, my old fashioned mother refused to let me date until I was 16.

Through the years, things didn’t improve a bit.  We were expected to be honest, dependable, trustworthy and kind to others. As the years rolled by, first one and then the other of us was put to shame.  We graduated from high school and went on to further our education.                                              

     My mother was a complete failure as a mother. 

Each of my siblings went on to marry and raise children in the same horrible conditions.  And whom do we have to blame for the terrible way we turned out?  You’re right, our mean mother!  Look at the things we missed; we never got to march in a protest parade, take part in a riot, burn draft cards, and a million and one other things that our friends did.                                                                                                                                                                                               

She forced us to grow up with a testimony of a loving Heavenly Father and to know our Savior Jesus Christ.  She taught us the power of prayer.  She taught us the importance of families and to love and serve and love one another.                           

NOW YEARS LATER ….

I confess!  I have raised my seven children in the same MEAN way that my mother raised me.  Six of my children have graduated from High School, the youngest at home is on track to do the same.  Three have their bachelors degrees, two daughters have their cosmetology license. (they keep my gray hairs covered)  Four are married and are raising their children in the same mean way.  

Thank you mom for smothering me with your love and most of all for your example of  living life with integrity,  dignity and for the courage to teach morals and values that I pray  will carry on for generations to come.

THANK YOU MOM for being the meanest mother in the whole world!                                                                                                 

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This blog post is dedicated to my mother, who I love with all my heart.  I owe who I am today to her.  She passed away March 12, 2014.  Until we meet again mom.  I Love You!                         

It’s My Birthday and I’ll Cry If I Want To!

“It’s my birthday and I’ll cry if I want to – cry if I want to – cry if I want to”.  Yes, I know the real lyrics are “It’s my PARTY and I’ll cry if I want to …”  If you have no idea what I am talking about – that’s proof I AM old!

Truthfully, if I cry today for turning another year older,  it’s tears of JOY, GRATITUDE and APPRECIATION for life’s experiences.

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At 51 years “young” I don’t feel much older than I did in high school, it’s only when I pass a mirror that I am reminded of my age. I decided to make a list of all the things I have been fortunate to experience throughout the past half-a-century as a reminder how precious life truly is ….

  • Born on ranch in Montana to the best family ever!
  • Rode horses everyday…. okay not everyday, but a lot
  • Met my future husband at age 8
  • My mother saw that I was kept busy so I didn’t have time to get into trouble; Dance, Piano, Guitar, Voice Lessons, Gymnastics and played in the Band – alto saxophone
  • Grew up with 6 living grandparents
  • Kept busy in High School: Senior Class President, Vice-President of Ski Club, Gymnastics team-Captain, Seminary Council, Choir Secretary – these roles landed me a Leadership Scholarship to BYU!
  • Skier – favorite resort: Alta
  • Loved the College life – BYU and BYU-Hawaii
  • Learned to Surf and Snorkel. (hate snorkeling – claustrophobic)
  • Married my secret High School crush – Scott Mackintosh
  • Mother of 7 AMAZING kids
  • Natural childbirth
  • One C-Section
  • Milked goats for 12 years
  • Community Service “Door Knocker” Award
  • 4H Horsemanship Leader – 17 years
  • England and Scotland – Twice
  • I’m a Cruise-a-holic – 8 Cruises
  • Para-Sailing- Twice (hated it – scared to death of heights)
  • India – Twice (loved, loved, loved my experience in India and the priceless friendships made)
  • Dubai
  • Rode a Camel and an Elephant
  • Camping with my family – love roasting marshmellows around a camp fire
  • Worked for two AMAZING Speaker/Authors: Kevin Hall and Chad Hymas which led to meeting….
  • Inspiring people: Immaculée Ilibagiza, Emmanuel Kelly, Rolanda Watts, Sean Stevenson, Dave Winfield, Mark Sandborn, Bridget Cook, Rebecca Musser, Lisa Nichols, Allison Byrd, Thurl Bailey, Mark Eaton, Jason Hewlett and the master of words Arthur Watkins.  ….and so many others through the National Speakers Association.
  • Gone Viral – Met Rachael Ray and Regis Philbin
  • Wrote a book “My Husband Wears The Short Shorts In THIS Family!”
  • Met and conversed with the LDS Prophet Thomas S. Monson for 20 minutes – a highlight of my life!
  • and the BESTEST of all  ….I am a GRANDMA!

I am truly indebted to God, my Heavenly Father, who has deeply blessed me, carried me through dark times when I wanted to give up, wiped away my tears when my heart was breaking, allowed me to experience and grow through trials and challenges and has not let a day go by that God didn’t tell me or show me how much He loves me.  I see it in my children’s faces, in my husband’s hug, in the flowers, the birds and the many wonderful friends that contribute to who I am. I am a child of God, a wife, mother and friend, what more could a person ask for?  I can’t think of a dang thing, except for perhaps a big piece of  strawberry short cake.  HaPpY Birthday to me!

 

 

The Gift of Adoption!

Pick me! Pick Me! I want to be a mom.  The Gift of Adoption.

Like countless of other young girls growing up, my biggest hope and dream was to become a mother.  Three months after marrying my best friend Scott,  we were expecting our first child born nine months later, followed by six more children over the next eleven years. My beautiful daughter Shandi and her husband Daniel imagined a similar life full of the pitter-patter of children. Their story is not unique, it may differ from mine; everyone has a different story to tell, a different journey to venture, a different picture to paint.

Shandi and Daniel are an incredible couple who would love to add little handprints and footprints to their home!

Please check out their blog and pass on their information to anyone who may be looking to place an infant or an older child in a loving home.

Shandi and Daniel “Larsen Family Tree” Blog

“Adoption is an act of unselfishness and bravery; it’s truly impeccable, and could change our lives forever. We couldn’t be more ecstatic at the thought of  having a precious child come into our home and  lives forever. We promise to raise this child with great dignity, to give the child hope and most of all unconditional love. We have been praying for many years to become parents and can’t wait for the opportunity to arise. Roads of life are never perfectly straight; we have turns, curves and detours. Life throws us all many obstacles that we must face and overcome. We will be by your side with strength, love, and kindness. We believe in you, the way we already believe in your baby. I know your baby will know each and every day how much they are loved, and we will do everything we can as parents to give your baby everything they need throughout their life.”  Shandi and Dan